My Simple, Happy, Beautiful Life

I have had numerous experiences in my life where others have come up to me and thanked me for helping them when I had no idea that I did anything. Even though it may sound like I am trying to make myself sound good, I am just trying to point out that you don't know the influence you have. When you are in service, you won't know your influence on others. The amazing thing about service is that it can be the smallest thing. It sounds cheesy, but a simple smile can mean the world to someone else. Just listening to someone talk about their day may be service to someone who feels lonely. You don't even have to respond, simply being there in the moment is all they need. A hug can be a answer to a prayer for someone who needs to feel love. A kind word is all that it is needed to someone who is struggling to like themselves. That sounds weird, but there are a lot of people who are not happy with who they are. They wish they could change themselves or they think they are not meeti...

So, it is a simple question with complex answers. Everyone has different responses to stress in their lives. A few examples inlcude: crying, drugs, addictions, talking about it, singing about it, exercising, eating and praying. There are so many ways that people handle stress successfully and unsuccessfully. I can't say that I am successful at handling stress but I am improving from my job. The funny thing about stress is that different people have different reactions to the same situation. For example, one person may react with having a drink to calm themselves down from a job loss compared to someone who views it as a learning opportunity. Finding the best way to react to a stressful situtation is a very important skill to be happy and move forward when you are down. Stress can be a very healthy thing in your life. It is called eustress. Eustress comes from stress from happy events. Marriage is a good thing yet it brings stress. The stress that comes from it can be good. We n...

First of all, I know that both genders watch pornography, I just want to address this letter to the men specifically as the opposite gender pleading for change.  I understand the power of addiction. You become trapped. It is difficult to stop looking as you have withdrawals. The only way to feel relief is to look at pornography. You feel that immediate escape and "happiness". The sad thing is this happiness is temporary and you need to look at pornography longer to get the same feeling you had before. I understand that addictions can overtake your life. I want you to know that your actions are affecting you, your immediate family and friends and society. I want to write about how your decisions are affecting me personally. I may not know you, but your decisions are still affecting me. There is this thing called objectifying women. It is happening all the time in society now. The pornography industry thrives off of objectifying women. I have never watched pornography, but I ...

I am trying to better understand the concept of "divorce". I had a friend tell me that his parents were getting divorced after 22 years of marriage. I looked at him and didn't know what to say. How do you console someone who is experiencing that? " Well, I am sorry that you have to move out of your house because your parents are getting divorced"? "I am sorry that your dad won't be in your life anymore". I mean there are so many consequences on the children that occur from divorce. It is hard for children to really understand the consequences of divorce. I can't even imagine being in the position of getting divorced. You always imagine your wedding day as the happiest in your life. Every chick flick ends with the wedding dress and wedding kiss. A happily ever after. What people don't realize that what is really the most important is what happens after the wedding day when it is daily life activities and rituals.  The scary thing abo...

I shouldn't be writing anyways because I will regret it tomorrow morning when I am exhausted, but I am going to do it anyways :) I haven't blogged and I feel like I have so many thoughts I can share about so many topics. My life hasn't been happening but I have had so many learning experiences lately. My work has been challenging when I am working in a autistic classroom but it has been the best experience to test my skills out. I am learning about myself and opening my eyes to the world of autism. It is such a interesting world and I love learning about the children everyday. Everyday is trial and error as we do our best to find solutions to the children's needs and problems. But I am going to try to compile all my lessons from the last couple of weeks. 1. Autism is fascinating. Every child on the spectrum is so different. I love how every child has a different "obsession" and they become a master on it. I come home and I feel autistic as I want to re...

First of all, I subbed at my middle school I went to 10 years ago! It was definitely weird being in the same cafeteria that I was awkward (sometimes I am still awkward), shorter, more quiet and  boy crazy. I walked into that cafeteria and started to think about all the awkward memories I have from middle school. Also, I saw some of my teachers that taught me still there. I saw the Jr. Herd football players wearing their jersey's acting like they were all that. I saw all the girls and boys in their PE clothes getting ready to go into the gym. I remember being so self conscious that I didn't look "cute" when I was wearing my over sized PE clothes. I remember how changing in the locker room was so scary. I thought I was the only scared. One day, I realized that everyone was scared to change into the locker room. But, I worked in the special education classroom for moderate to severe. There are so many levels of children in that classroom. There are children who the t...

I am a car owner! I have been searching for the "perfect" car for a while and I lucked out. I bought my first car. Her name is Holland Rose. I introduced her on facebook by describing her hobbies: bubble baths, an occassional waxing, chilling out to Jack Johnson and long drives in the moonlight. Yes, I know that I humanizing my car. I figured that since Holland and I will be spending lots of time together, we should enjoy the time together though. Do you want to see a picture of her? Yeah, that is Holland Rose. My family likes to make fun of how I named my car. Well, I wanted to name my car because she is mine. She is my baby. She has to have a name. Her color is champagne. I wanted to name a type of champagne. All of the names were french. I don't really want a french car. One of the types of champagne had the name "rose". I liked the name, so I decided her name was rose. I looked up "girl car names" on google (yes I did!), and Holland came u...