Eay Pray Love

   I saw Eat, Pray, Love with my roomate. I loved it. It inspired me because I could see the healing process Julia Roberts went through. She learned so much through her journey. I dont think we need to travel to Italy, India, Bali to find ouselves. We have social support, family, and many resources that we can find to find the peace. I realized how important it is a relationship for each individual  have that "inner peace" or completeness. She wasn't happy in her marriage, because she wasn't complete herself. Although people looking at the outside would think she was happy. She was a writer, publishing books, traveling, her husband was smart, they were "happily" married. But she identified herself by what she did, not who she was. One part during the movie, they were talking about words to describe themselves, and Julia Roberts described herself as "writer". One man commented saying, "thats what you do, not who you are". I feel like we identify ourselves with what we do to define ourselves. Julia Roberts then realized she needed to find herself because being a "writer' wasnt who she was. I think she realized in the end she was strong. She went to India, to find her inner peace through meditation. At first she struggled with "not thinking", she couldn't calm herself down. She would always worry about her ex-husband, she would always think about something. She couldn't forgive herself. I think this movie brought up the importance of forgiving ourselves. Often times, we can forgive others but we still live this regret about what happened, and blame ourselves. One thing we can learn is that we don't have to carry the baggage, it may take time but we need to learn we can't blame ourselves for a situation and we need to just let go. It sounds much easier than it is to do, but it is vital to have that peace in our life. How can we feel peace in our life with thinking.."I could of done this to prevent the situation". We need to get to a point where we think, "I can't control the situation, it is in the past, and I need to realize that I wasn't the only one to blame and I need to move on". Once, she was able to let go of the past and forgive herself, she seemed like a different person. She was smiling, she would reach out to others. Her last trip to Bali, was very interesting to me. Everyone told her, "you need to find a husband". She didn't want to find a husband, she didn't want to love someone. She was afraid, fear was taking over her life with the idea of loving again. It is hard to love once you have been hurt. It takes a lot of trust and faith in the other person that they will not hurt you. She first met him, and they were infatuated. But once commitment started settling in, and she said she was "loosing her balance' by being in love with him. The idea of "loosing your balance" intrigued me. Her life was complete already, and she thought that being in love would ruin her "completeness", or her peace.  She talked to her meditation friend, and he told her that she needed to love again, and it is okay to "lose your balance" for love. It could be the greatest thing. You really won't lose your balance, it will just be two complete people together because they make each other happy. Unlike her other relationships, where they were miserable together, but they would by unhappy if they weren't together. She would put herself in a trap each relationship where she wasn't happy, but she would stay in the relationship because she was afraid of being alone. She realized that she was doing this, but this relationship was different, she had changed. Her sequence of healing interested me. She realized her need to change, she tried new things to find herself, she realized she needed peace in her life, she found peace through forgiving herself and serving others, she felt like she had "completed her life", and found someone to love, she struggled but in the end, she was able to "lose her balance" and love again. This movie was a about a journey for a women to find inner peace, joy, herself, and love. Her new perspective on life was interesting too, she said that people who come into your life are "teachers". Her past relationships, her friends, her experiences were all teachers, showing her things she needed to know, and lessons she needed to have to develop the person she became. Overall, this movie was very good because it just made me think about everything I wrote in my blog. Self-discovery is very important, and vital to having peace in our life.