My Simple, Happy, Beautiful Life

Y ou have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes You can steer yourself any direction you choose. You're on your own.  And you know what you know. And YOU are the guy who'll decide where to go. I was thinking of the places I have been and the places I will go. Life is too short to worry. Enjoy each moment because each moment you worry that will be one moment you will never get back. My attitude has just experienced a recent shift.  I was extremely worried about my future but recently I have been really happy and relaxed. I know that everything works out for those who work hard and trust God. It took me a while to fully believe that but it is a faith like  optimism  that has changed my attitude. I know that miracles can happen and there are tender mercies that happen to us everyday. Small moments that just let you know that God is aware of you. Like the fact that today someone asked me how I was feeling about transferring and I smiled. I knew it was rig...

What do I want to do today? What do I need to accomplish? What do I like? Do you see similar things in these sentences? I have recently learned a new lesson about being self centered (Which is kinda ironic because this blog is what I have learned about..but it is supposed to help you). There is this thing called self love that American psychologists like to emphasize. I think that loving and respecting yourself is extremely important. Don't get me wrong on that. But if we had a more Adlerian focus on helping others? Adler was a altruistic psychologist who believed we should focus on others more than ourselves. Life focusing on yourself is miserable. There is no pleasure. You live to please to yourself. What is the purpose in life? To make yourself happy? There is more to life than to how much your cell phone bill is and how your relationship with your family and friends are. Those are important but if we focus more on how others are feeling than we will find more purpose in lif...

I am in love with your music. I can't get enough of it and I say you in August! I have my radio station for Sara Bareilles and I listen to it all the time. I just wanted to encourage all of you to listen to Sara Bareilles. It is real music that will just make you happy.

I GOT IN! I GOT IN! Hallejuah...I am happy. I accepted. I feel good about it. I am relieved that my future is planned out. I am going to go school in the winter and I have the summer off to go home or to go to Alaska. Oh the opportunities! I love opening up doors and finding relief. I can breathe now and not have anxiety. Now I get to register and get my housing contract. This is a happy day where everything will work out for its good. Anyways, I wanted to share my happy moment of joy. My favorite words I have read this whole semester:   Congratulations! You have been admitted to Brigham Young University to begin Winter 2012. Through your preparation and personal achievements you have distinguished yourself from a very strong group of applicants. We believe you will make a positive contribution to the BYU community. It is a great pleasure to welcome you to our campus to pursue your educational goals.

I know its not Thanksgiving and that is when everyone talks about gratitude but I believe that we should be grateful for everything we have. I need to work on this more. It is so easy to see what we lack. We never see what we have until it is gone. What if we recognized what we have when it is in front of us? What if we showed more love and service and recognized the blessings we have? Do you have thank God for your bed, healthy body, food, clothes, house, friends, family, money, job, education, past, trials? There is so much to be grateful for but we need to keep our eyes open to what we have. I know that I close my eyes to what I have and seek for what I don't have. I wonder how my life would be different If I looked at what I had. Would I be more happy and less self centered? We sang Count Your Blessings today in church and had a talk about gratitude. Lately, I have been frustrated about my life. I want my answers and I have to keep being pacient. I have put my life in hold as I...

You have the power to have greatness. You have the power to be great. I know there are many experiences that show we are born with the power to do evil. We are born with power to do good and evil. I try to emphasize the fact that we can do good. I try to see the good in people. There are too many experiences in my life where I have seen people do great things. I have seen acts of service. I have seen sacrifice. I have seen selfless people give everything to anyone and everyone. I like to think we can reach our potential if we work hard. I know there are some things we can't control. Our genes and environment have some kind of control yet I believe our free agency will allow us to make some choices. Call me navie. Call me ignorant. I call myself hopefully innocent. I don't care what others say, I believe in the free will. People can change. There is hope in the world.

I feel like dating has become like a complicated game. I watch other couples around the BYU Idaho campus and I feel like it is a game full of competition. Girls try to one up each other and try to be the perfect girl. People make out after hanging out instead of kissing after a real date and meaning the kiss. Guys don't ever call for a date. They will text to hang out. What ever happened to the act of courting? That was the process to get a wife and date back in the good old days. Guys had to court the girl by going on walks and buying them flowers. They would tell them compliments and try to impress them with their words and actions. Now the responsibility relies more on the girl. Girls are pressured to ask out guys in order to get a date. I don't know how I feel exactly if asking out a guy should be right. I want to be traditional but sometimes you have to move along with the times. We just had a devotional about dating and what girls should do. They said girls need to stop...

I am currently developing my patience as I await acceptance or denials from DisneyWorld and BYU. These acceptances or denials will form my future plans so my decision making has been put on hold until I hear back from them. At times I can be frustrated because I just want to know now. I check my email first thing every morning and every night before I go to bed. Yet this time is helping me see that I don't have patience. I need to develop it in order to be more Christlike. I talk about making my future great and making plans in order to reach my goals and this scary time of finding out if I can get in to the programs to make my dreams come true is now!  I am pretty sure I will get into the DisneyWorld program again. I might not get the job I want. I want to be a character attendant really bad. I know that I will have fun in Florida again but I don't know if it where I am supposed to be again. I had fun and I learned a lot from the program. I learned about networking, making...

We are studying Jung next in my personality class and let me tell you he is a very complicated psychologist. One interesting fact about him was that he was in love with two women at the same time. He was madly in love with his wife when he fell in love with a student. He continued to have the mistress live in a close bedroom to his bedroom with his wife in the same house. He was once friends with Freud until he told him that his ideas were based too much on sexual motivations. One thing we can all learn from Freud is that we need to take criticism better. People tried to constructively criticize Frued's idea on sex but he would ignore them and throw them out of his world. Maybe if he took criticism better, then his ideas would be more acceptable to society. Many people throw out Freud because his ideas are so extreme yet they are profound and catches truth about human nature.  Anyways, Jung was the first psychologist to start the belief of...

I believe in Freud. I wanted to reject his ideas because he believes that human behavior is influenced by sex and aggression. It is a negative view on human nature. I saw Captain America and all the previews before it were action movies. They were full of agression and sexual tension. Everything is based on these two things according to Freud. Look at media. Every soap opera and drama show has people fighting full of hatred and casual sex. I saw so many examples of Freuds theory this weekend that would just take too long to write. I don't want to say this but I believe in some ideas of Freud. Sorry Freud that I thought you were crazy. Well you are crazy yet you hold some logic in your theories. Okay, that's all. I just had to publicly apologize for making fun of Freud.

I have learned a lot about myself recently. So this is a blog about what I have learned about myself. I am a outgoing person to a extent. I want people to come reach out to me. Sometimes I just sit in my room waiting for someone to knock on my door wanting to be my best friend. I just have recently discovered that things don't work out that way. If I want a social life then I have to put myself out there and be in social situations. I have recently that I am more shy than I thought I was. I need to become more outgoing and more forward with people. I guess I got so comfortable in my little shell but then I realized my shell was breaking that I needed to make a larger shell. I learned that I am a perfectionist. I am very hard on myself. I have a hard time accepting the imperfections in myself. I long to be perfect. I always knew that I was like this in my school work. I never realized I was like this in my social life and dating life. Different experiences with different persona...