Self Centered Attitude
What do I want to do today? What do I need to accomplish? What do I like? Do you see similar things in these sentences? I have recently learned a new lesson about being self centered (Which is kinda ironic because this blog is what I have learned about..but it is supposed to help you).
There is this thing called self love that American psychologists like to emphasize. I think that loving and respecting yourself is extremely important. Don't get me wrong on that. But if we had a more Adlerian focus on helping others? Adler was a altruistic psychologist who believed we should focus on others more than ourselves. Life focusing on yourself is miserable. There is no pleasure. You live to please to yourself. What is the purpose in life? To make yourself happy?
There is more to life than to how much your cell phone bill is and how your relationship with your family and friends are. Those are important but if we focus more on how others are feeling than we will find more purpose in life. Happiness comes from serving and helping others. A life lived for oneself is a miserable life. I have relearned this lesson multiple times in my life.
Sometimes I expect people to come to me and ask me about my problems. I want the world and everyone in it to love me. I have learned it doesn't work that way. The world may or may not love you after you love the world. I don't know if that makes sense. But I don't expect praises from the world anymore. I remember in Florida, I remember some days no one would recognize me and just yell me at work all day. Those were miserable days. I was so angry that no one cared about me. There were people who cared about me but they weren't around. Looking back I recognized I was very self centered. I was focusing on how I was feeling instead of focusing on others. I emphasized the fact that I had a bad day and threw myself a pity party. What if instead of throwing yourself a pity party, we did something for someone else? How would our attitudes change?
I refuse to join a "I hate boys pity party". I refuse to have "eat ice cream because my life sucks" party anymore. I may or may not in the future...but If I have the choice I will choose to do service instead. I encourage everyone else to do the same!
There is this thing called self love that American psychologists like to emphasize. I think that loving and respecting yourself is extremely important. Don't get me wrong on that. But if we had a more Adlerian focus on helping others? Adler was a altruistic psychologist who believed we should focus on others more than ourselves. Life focusing on yourself is miserable. There is no pleasure. You live to please to yourself. What is the purpose in life? To make yourself happy?
There is more to life than to how much your cell phone bill is and how your relationship with your family and friends are. Those are important but if we focus more on how others are feeling than we will find more purpose in life. Happiness comes from serving and helping others. A life lived for oneself is a miserable life. I have relearned this lesson multiple times in my life.
Sometimes I expect people to come to me and ask me about my problems. I want the world and everyone in it to love me. I have learned it doesn't work that way. The world may or may not love you after you love the world. I don't know if that makes sense. But I don't expect praises from the world anymore. I remember in Florida, I remember some days no one would recognize me and just yell me at work all day. Those were miserable days. I was so angry that no one cared about me. There were people who cared about me but they weren't around. Looking back I recognized I was very self centered. I was focusing on how I was feeling instead of focusing on others. I emphasized the fact that I had a bad day and threw myself a pity party. What if instead of throwing yourself a pity party, we did something for someone else? How would our attitudes change?
I refuse to join a "I hate boys pity party". I refuse to have "eat ice cream because my life sucks" party anymore. I may or may not in the future...but If I have the choice I will choose to do service instead. I encourage everyone else to do the same!
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