My Simple, Happy, Beautiful Life

One of my friends just recently was dumped by her boyfriend and heartbroken. This is my advice to how to move on from a past boyfriend/girlfriend. Breakups are tough but they can be good learning experiences and make you stronger. It will all depend on how you cope with everything. Don't make a enemy with your ex. It is possible to co-exist with your ex in the same room without killing each other. And below is my new favorite song by Sara Bareilles. Yes, I know I have a lot of her songs on my blog but thats because I am kinda obsessed with her music right now after seeing her live. So. The question of the day: How do you get over someone? This is my "advice column" for people who are going through a break up right now. First thing you just have to point out. It will be painful. Just accept the fact that you will have a hard time. You will doubt yourself, you will cry, you will have anger and denial. You will want to watch The OC all day everyday and just look at Seth Coh...

I had one of those today. I was in phyiscal pain so I just wanted to lie on the coach and watch netflix movies that had happy endings all day, so I did. I can do this because I am not in school. If I was in school, I would just have to tough it out and deal with it. I realized that watching these chick flicks that make dating seem easy makes you happy temporarily but it makes you believe in this false reality. You start hoping, wishing and daydreaming that your life will turn out like this chick flick movie you just watched. Here it goes: You meet someone, there is instant attraction and everything is amazing. Something wrong happens and you have to deal with a problem. The problem is resolved and you kiss and "the end" flashes on the screen. That is what you see in every chick flick. It is the famous plot. And yes, it may happen like this in real life. What if there is no instant attraction when you first meet? What if there is no happy ending? What if fighting just occurs...

I have had this negative attitude all break that Elk Grove is the worst place to be right now. I have learned several things about your perspective and life this break. First of all having a job would be nice. I didn't work this break and I wanted to earn money and be productive with my time. Having no plans all day isn't too much fun, but working and then coming home is pretty relaxing. Unproductivity is the worst feeling you can ever have. I loved not having responsibility because I had my freedom with my time. I started wasting my time with netflix, reading, playing the piano, running, sleeping and eating. I wanted something where I could hold responsibility in this break though. Second, you make what you want out of your life. If I had to stay in Elk Grove for the Fall, it wouldn't be that bad. I have friends and I could make new friends. I went to the fireside last night and there were some cute guys. If I was staying here, I would actually attempt to start something...

I saw Sugarland and Sara Bareilles the other day. It was an amazing concert. Do you want to know why? Because I was in front a couple feet away on the floor. I have never been that close to the band before. It is a different experience than any concert I have been to before. I loved Sara Bareilles. She is amazing live. Her voice is so easy to listen to and it is beautiful. She is cute. She wore this adorable hat and dress. Her dress flew up and she said "We are family so I guess you can put that on youtube if you want". She seemed like a very real and genuine person by her performance. She was spunky, fun, talented and had some jerky ex boyfriends. But then again, who hasn't? I liked Sugarland's ball of positive energy. She danced around the stage in her confident manner just living in the moment. She didn't really talk that much, but much of Sara Bareilles and Sugarland's music was very positive. I loved that it was mostly clean with very little bad lan...

Being in my house all day, I felt like I was going insane. I mean, I started singing Opera! When do I just bust out in Opera? I watched a really cheesy ABC Movie called Revenge of the Bridesmaids and Julie & Julia. I played piano, ran, vaccumed the car, cleaned my room and read my book. I like my summer vacation yet I am ready for school. Anyways, when I was watching Julie & Julia, it made me think about blogging. I love blogging. Everyday I wake up and think of what I am going to write about. In the movie "You've Got Mail", she says she can't wait to email Tom Hanks and see what the email is about. She likes to see the email and it makes her happy to write about her personal life and interests. I feel the same way about this blog.  I open up on this blog and write my thoughts on life. I don't think many people read this blog yet to me it carries meaning to me. It is my journal, my emotional outlet, my expression of my deepest emotions and secrets and wi...

I watched a documentary on Beethoven and his life. Let me tell you that Beethoven is amazing. How can someone deaf write Ode to Joy without ever hearing it? In the documentary it said that people clapped for him in 5 ovations until the police had to come and silence the crowd in London. Symphony Number 9 was his last symphony before he died when he was 56. He become completed deaf in 1820 yet he still published. He kept writing until he died. Beethoven was inspired by God. He was mad yet he was brilliant. He was rude and arrogant yet he was humble in his ability to perform and compose music. He talked about his gift he was given and he wanted to use it for its intended use. People think he was disorganzied (and his apartment was) but his brain held so much organized information. One historian on the show said that he had a huge brain and a huge heart. These two would fight with each other yet they frequently would work together to make a masterpiece. I truly believe that what made B...

I was thinking about people in general today and all the people I am friends with and have met in the last month. One of my best friends from home loves diversity. Her friend circle is people from all over. I went to her goodbye party last Friday where I was the minority as a blonde and white person. It didn't bother me but normally I am not the minority. I can relate to most everyone as I have had friends from all over the world. I don't see color. I see different personalities and cultures but I try to see everyone as my equal. I had a diverse friend circle in High School, so that is maybe where I learned to relate to all people. Throughout my friendships I have learned that we are one. Even though we may come from a different background and culture, we can find a way to relate each other. There are so many things that separate people today from building friendships; social classes, economy status, home location, personal pride and different family traditions and values. In t...

My summer break has been fun. I have traveled a lot and been outside. I have danced. I have slept. I have watched movies, and I have picked up on some Joplin! I have never been really into ragtime piano but Maple Leaf Rag is a fun piece to learn how to play. It has a lot of flats and the tempo is crazy fast but once you can kinda play it, it is fun to play. If you have not heard Joplin music, you probably have. He is the composer of The Entertainer, which every piano player plays. If you haven't heard Maple Leaf Rag, go look it up on Youtube. It will make you more well rounded knowing some more composers and classical music and it will just make you happy. And I always hear people say they want to learn how to play piano but they are too old. No you are not! You can always learn. It is much easier to learn when you are younger but it is possible to learn when you are older. It will be hard but worth it because playing the piano is just a good hobby that will make you feel accompl...

Last night I went to a Salsa club wit my best friend from High School. I loved it! There was a basic dance lesson where we learned the basic side step and turn and then they practiced it. I knew the basic step already and some other steps I had already forgotten. My friend introduced me to a guy who was really good. He was older but he was a really good dancer. I went to this college town place where people would come and just dance. It was a tiny dancefloor but it was all latin upbeat music. We danced to salsa, merengue, bochtata and cha cha. What I learned last night was once you know how to follow in most dances, then you can do anything. You learn the basic of a step, you trust your partner, and you can do most anything. I liked watching others who were really good dance. Some people just naturally move their bodies really well. They know how to lead and follow and move their hips naturally. I wish I could be like those people. I was told I was a good dancer all night, but it...

I just saw The Help with my sister in law and mi madre. It was a very good movie. It made me laugh and it inspired me. Skeeter, the main girl, has courage to do the right thing among her racist friends. She does the unthinkable and writes a book based on the "helps" point of view. What I like about the movie is it was clean with sexual content, there was some language but overall it was pretty clean. I liked how Skeeter was so brave. She didn't see color. She saw human beings with shared experiences and emotions. She could relate to the help because she saw them as her friends. It made me think about how we are raised and how we obtain our attitude and perceptions of the world.Her friends were raised in a racist environment so it seemed clear to them how they should treat their help. She was raised in that environment as well but she broke it with a new perspective. I loved it how it showed that people can change based on their experiences, it may be hard but it is poss...

I have been thinking about how a small rock can have great effects on water. You throw a small rock in the water and then there is a ripple effect on the water as it creates small waves. Even though the small rock isn't heavy or powerful it still can change the water surrounding it. My point in this blog is not about small rocks in water, but about how small things can lead to greater things. Studying can lead to Straight A's. Running can lead to weight loss. Chocolate can lead to Happiness. Sleep can lead to Relief. One conversation can help someone when they are in need. One small act of kindness can lead to someone's attitude change. One smile can lead to a romance. These are some examples of how small things can lead to greater and bigger things. There have been so many examples of this in my life. I can think of a compliment that made my whole day when I was thinking negatively about myself. A simple friendship has lead to romances in my life. A lot of people think ...

I was hiking with my father worrying about my future. I could tell worrying was slowing my pace as my family was increasingly getting farther away from me. I finally called out my dad and asked him some questions. We had a good conversation. I already knew what he told me, it was no new information. The information he told me just reminded me what I needed to focus on more. For us single people, sometimes we can worry about when we are going to meet the person we want to spend the rest of our life with. You watch chick flicks about magical romances and first kisses. It is so easy to get caught up in these chick flicks and lose reality. I think I have been slowly getting caught up in some false reality that I have lose my focus. There is no man who will come up and save me miraculously. People will come attracted to you when you become the person they want to be with. Focus more on becoming than finding the perfect person. And there is no perfect person out there because everyone make...

Yes, I did it. It was a challenge. I thought I was going to die but I have one thing off my bucket list right now. Hiking half dome was a big feat and I had to overcome fear in order to accomplish my goal. I have a fear of heights yet I have gone sky diving. I kept telling myself "If I have gone skydiving then I can do anything". Right? Skydiving is very different than Half dome because I am in control of my own life when climbing Half dome. If I slip, I will die. In skydiving, someone else is in control of the parachute so I just enjoy the ride. I had fear of my own capabilities, fear of dying, fear of falling, and fear of heights. I was afraid mainly in my own ability to climb. I knew it required emotional and physical strength. Each step I took I knew I was one step closer to the top. I kept thinking of Train who said "I think I can". I think climbing half dome was hard mainly because I doubted in my own abilities. If I knew I could do it and had absolute confide...