The question I hate the most

I guess this is something I have found out by just having it repeat over and over again. I come home and either my friends, family. or people at church always ask this same question. I always smile and try to act like I don't get it all the time. But we all know that it can get annoying yet funny the more it is repeated. I give them this look asking them if that is all that matters. They always ask me: Are you dating anyone? They ask me why I am not dating anyone. I feel like my self worth depends on whether or not I have a boyfriend. I want to ask them, does my education not matter? I have friends. I have a social life. I have a life. I hate this philosophy that you have to have a boyfriend in order to have something to talk about to people. I get it. Having a boyfriend is nice. I like dating, sometimes... :) But there are other things in life that are important to. Should we forget about everything else that is important and focus on the fact that someone is single? What is wrong with being single? I may have to pay for my own food, hang out with my roommates and friends more often. I am not saying that boyfriends are overrated. I hate this need that girls have to have a boyfriend. I am happy for people who are dating, engaged, married. Good for you that you have found someone you want to be with! I am not jealous. I think that we have equal self worth though even if I am not dating anyone.

I don't want people to read this and think that I am jealous of every couple out there. I just want people to date for the right reason. What is the reason to date someone? To get to know them, because you enjoy their company, and ultimately because you will marry someone. These are good reasons to date. There are bad reasons to date too though. You could date someone because you need to be told you are beautiful everyday. You don't like the person but you like the attention. You will lead that person on and you won't have feelings for that person. That isn't fair! You are using them.You want the self worth that comes from someone else complimenting you telling you are wonderful. I just find it funny that everywhere I go people will ask me this question. It is inevitable.

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