Good things take time to develop
I love my research job. I had no idea that it would last for a year. When I got this job, It was only supposed to be for the summer when I was going to run SPSS stats. It went from running the data to analyzing the data to reading literature on emerging adulthood and marriage to helping edit the book to writing a research paper.
I have learned so much from my job but the most important thing I have learned is that good things take time. I have developed a good relationship with my mentor. I can talk to him freely and he is very flexible with deadlines. As a college student and employee, flexible deadlines are amazing and a dream come true.This relationship with my mentor is good because we have been working closely together for a year. I have developed a "expertise" in the subject I am studying. If someone talks to me about emerging adulthood, the LDS talks about marriage, READY or RELATE, marriage preparation, marital attitudes, family of origin's influence on dating patterns, then I have knowledge about it. I am saying this because I am so "mighty". I am not mighty. I simply have been studying this subject for a year by analyzing stats, looking at patterns and correlations, reading research and been talking with one of the experts in this subject. A YEAR! Do you know how long that is to study one subject? It is a long time. Sometimes, you take a college course and think that you mastered that topic after that one class during the semester. Well, you are wrong (sorry). Becoming a expert in a certain topic takes time and effort. You really have to be dedicated in whatever you are learning about. I am still not a expert about what I research about. My relief society president came home and she was talking to me about my job, and I told I was writing a research paper on emerging adulthood and marriage prep. She kinda looked at me in a "thats cool" way, and then I said "well, it dosen't help me out currently, but one day it will". And I am not a expert so I can't tell you everything about these topics because I have so much more to learn. I am simply moving forward on my journey towards truth on this subject.
Yes, I have learned that good things take time. Knowledge takes time. A fit body take time as muscles become stronger gradually. A relationship takes time to develop and grow through experiences. A broken family takes time to regrow and forgive. A story takes time to unfold.
We want things instantly as we have information at our fingertips. What is the size of a whale...well...let me just google that. I have a answer immediately. Right? We have to consider when we are making decisions and trying to figure out our future that good things take time to develop. A strong identity takes time to develop as we are tested and become stronger through experience. We can't expect to have integrity after one day of not cheating on a exam. The process of developing integrity will take a whole lifetime. So, maybe we need more patience in our world. Just because we can order our coffee at Starbucks and get it in our time table in a quick manner, dosen't mean that other things will work in the same manner.
Give people and things time to develop and don't rush. Rushing things that need time can be detrimental. Also during the conversation with my relief society president, we talked about how social pressure can affect us. She brought up a interesting point. Maybe, it is us complying to the social pressure and allowing it to work on us. We are not determined to have the social pressure and demands to affect us. If we decided we were going to have our own individual time table for certain things to develop, we would be much happier. Then we won't have our demands unmet and feel disappointed. I mean, I am only 21, I don't need to have everything figured out right now. Who says that a 21 year old needs to have their life plan made?
So, here's to throwing out time tables and demands that things will work out according to when we want it to. I am stubborn. I want things when I want them. I am starting to learn this lesson that I may have no control over some events in my life. I need to learn that good things take time and that patience is the most important skill when I am starting to form my identity as an adult.
Let time run it's course and trust in God. It is a good lesson to learn.
I have learned so much from my job but the most important thing I have learned is that good things take time. I have developed a good relationship with my mentor. I can talk to him freely and he is very flexible with deadlines. As a college student and employee, flexible deadlines are amazing and a dream come true.This relationship with my mentor is good because we have been working closely together for a year. I have developed a "expertise" in the subject I am studying. If someone talks to me about emerging adulthood, the LDS talks about marriage, READY or RELATE, marriage preparation, marital attitudes, family of origin's influence on dating patterns, then I have knowledge about it. I am saying this because I am so "mighty". I am not mighty. I simply have been studying this subject for a year by analyzing stats, looking at patterns and correlations, reading research and been talking with one of the experts in this subject. A YEAR! Do you know how long that is to study one subject? It is a long time. Sometimes, you take a college course and think that you mastered that topic after that one class during the semester. Well, you are wrong (sorry). Becoming a expert in a certain topic takes time and effort. You really have to be dedicated in whatever you are learning about. I am still not a expert about what I research about. My relief society president came home and she was talking to me about my job, and I told I was writing a research paper on emerging adulthood and marriage prep. She kinda looked at me in a "thats cool" way, and then I said "well, it dosen't help me out currently, but one day it will". And I am not a expert so I can't tell you everything about these topics because I have so much more to learn. I am simply moving forward on my journey towards truth on this subject.
Yes, I have learned that good things take time. Knowledge takes time. A fit body take time as muscles become stronger gradually. A relationship takes time to develop and grow through experiences. A broken family takes time to regrow and forgive. A story takes time to unfold.
We want things instantly as we have information at our fingertips. What is the size of a whale...well...let me just google that. I have a answer immediately. Right? We have to consider when we are making decisions and trying to figure out our future that good things take time to develop. A strong identity takes time to develop as we are tested and become stronger through experience. We can't expect to have integrity after one day of not cheating on a exam. The process of developing integrity will take a whole lifetime. So, maybe we need more patience in our world. Just because we can order our coffee at Starbucks and get it in our time table in a quick manner, dosen't mean that other things will work in the same manner.
Give people and things time to develop and don't rush. Rushing things that need time can be detrimental. Also during the conversation with my relief society president, we talked about how social pressure can affect us. She brought up a interesting point. Maybe, it is us complying to the social pressure and allowing it to work on us. We are not determined to have the social pressure and demands to affect us. If we decided we were going to have our own individual time table for certain things to develop, we would be much happier. Then we won't have our demands unmet and feel disappointed. I mean, I am only 21, I don't need to have everything figured out right now. Who says that a 21 year old needs to have their life plan made?
So, here's to throwing out time tables and demands that things will work out according to when we want it to. I am stubborn. I want things when I want them. I am starting to learn this lesson that I may have no control over some events in my life. I need to learn that good things take time and that patience is the most important skill when I am starting to form my identity as an adult.
Let time run it's course and trust in God. It is a good lesson to learn.
I love your thoughts, Kristen. One of the great attributes about God is that He is patient. He allows us to grow line upon line, precept upon precept. God is more interested in what we become than in what we do. Becoming is a process, not an event. I am grateful you have figured this out at such an early age. Yes, 21 is still young. And so is 50. I love that we are young together!
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